Oral Sex
It’s best to use a flavoured condom for this to prevent
exchange of fluids – remember pre-cum can contain HIV
and other STIs as well as semen. Talk to your partner and
respect his wishes about coming in his mouth.
Condoms
These will protect you from most STIs. Remember, condoms should
only be used once (the mind boggles). Also change condoms
if you are moving from anus to vagina, to stop the transfer
of bacteria. Remember to squeeze the air out of the top of
the condom before you put it on, and pull out before your
erection goes limp.
Dams
Condoms are important but they can’t do everything.
If you are going to be having anal or vaginal oral sex (rimming
or cunilingus), you can protect yourself from some pretty
gruesome STIs with a dam. These are rectangles of thin latex
which you hold up as a barrier between mouth and vagina/anus.
Use some lube on the reverse to reduce friction.
If you don’t have a dam to hand, you can cut open a
condom, as long as it’s not a spermicidal one (yuck!)
and use that, thought the shape is less convenient. Don’t
use cling-film – it’s porous, which rather defeats
the purpose of the exercise.
You can get dams from chemists
Lube
When using condoms and dams, remember to use water-based
lube – oil degrades the latex! I’m serious,
do not use vaseline, baby oil, massage oil, conditioner, lotion,
eye makeup remover, butter, olive oil, anything like that;
it’ll dissolve the latex. Condoms can tear if there
isn’t enough lubrication (and it can be very uncomfortable!)
so please remember to stock up beforehand. (silicone-based
is also ok!) Use lube on the vagina/anus-side of dams to reduce
friction. Find emergency lube on the JCR office door in staircase
16.. I can’t stress enough the importance of lube. Go
forth and have slippery fun.
Gloves/Finger cots
Fingering should ideally be done with well trimmed & filed
nails, and if you want to be extra-safe, or you have cuts
on your hands, wear either latex gloves or finger cots (like
little glove fingers, that come rolled up). This prevents
the exchange of fluids, because you can have tiny little cuts
on your hands.
The basic finger-sex rule is one hand for you, one for your
partner.
